Values & matching
Finding a partner who shares your values
Shared hobbies make the start easy. Whether a relationship lasts often depends on something else: what both people truly care about in life.
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Interests and values aren’t the same
Interests are what you enjoy doing – hiking, cooking, concerts. Values are what matters to you – reliability, family, freedom, honesty or how you handle money. Different hobbies are easy to combine. Fundamentally different ideas about life are much harder to bridge.
Working out what matters to you
Before you start looking, it’s worth taking an honest look at yourself. These questions help:
- Do you want children – or definitely not?
- Which kind of relationship suits you, and how important is marriage?
- How much time together and how much space do you need?
- How do you deal with conflict – talk it through straight away, or take some distance first?
- What is non-negotiable for you, and where are you open?
Differences aren’t automatically bad
Two people don’t have to be alike to be a good match. Some differences complement each other – for example when one person loves planning and the other is spontaneous and both handle it constructively. Other differences are friction points worth talking about early. What matters is knowing them.
How personal matching helps
FOUND LOVE asks about your values, life goals and ideas about relationships, and suggests people where those fit – and where the search is mutual as well. Instead of a percentage, you get an explanation in words: what could connect you and what’s worth talking about early.
For children, marriage and type of relationship you can mark an answer as non-negotiable; if there’s a fundamental conflict, there’s no suggestion. The matching is rule-based and transparent – no AI decides who you see. Still, nobody can guarantee a relationship. A good suggestion is a beginning, not a promise.